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Congrats, Diego.

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Lots of good times ahead fella

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All the good times babe I've been misusin'

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thanks people, really!!! I suddenly think "what am I doing????" hehehehehe but everything will be fine, she´s great, I love her

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^^ normal...

It'll be fine. Just enjoy! (cute to hear you're that nervous though :lol:)

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[QUOTE=diegoff;1153935]thanks people, really!!! I suddenly think "what am I doing????" hehehehehe but everything will be fine, she´s great, I love her[/QUOTE]

Marriage is a more ideal circumstance for living together in my humble opinion, but I realize these days it's quite common not to be, so whatevz. How long have you all been together?

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not so long... a year and a half

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marriage it's just a command of the system florida,

has nothing to do with real Love being married or not, it's just a habit of the drove

and I say it with love

diegofffff, if you have any problems, just put The Soft Parade and disappear into meditation mode

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^the same could be said for a college diploma, drivers license, certification. Humans are ceremonial, we have funerals, marriages, graduations and so forth. They mean something to some people. They mean nothing to others. And that's fine. To me and my family, marriage is a sacred thing. :)

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fully understand and respect that ;)

here is called "casamiento" ..... that miento inside there also means Lie :lol: and casa is home :lol:

far Feliz Cumpleaños for you and yours around there ;)

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My good friend and his gf have lived together for years, and it seems to work great for them, whatever works, at the end of the day, it's all about love, respect, forgiveness and mostly commitment. good talk, and respect to you too bro.

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[QUOTE=floridaorange;1154116]^.....we have funerals, marriages, graduations and so forth. They mean something to some people. They mean nothing to others. And that's fine. To me and my family, marriage is a sacred thing. [IMG]http://www.mercuryserver.com/forums/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif[/IMG][/QUOTE]

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[QUOTE=Hoff;1154040][COLOR=#cc6666] if you have any problems, just put The Soft Parade and disappear into meditation mode [/COLOR][/QUOTE]

good words, man

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Put on Oakenfold - Global Underground '96 and fuck with the rest.

[I]"I really don't care anymore [/I][I]About all the Jim-Jim's in this town [/I] [I]And all the politicians makin' crazy sounds [/I] [I]And everybody puttin' everybody else down"[/I]

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learn to swim, flush it all away

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Yeah, right.

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stoned kitty takes a cat nap

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[QUOTE=floridaorange;1154116]^the same could be said for a college diploma, drivers license, certification. Humans are ceremonial, we have funerals, marriages, graduations and so forth. They mean something to some people. They mean nothing to others. And that's fine. [/QUOTE] [/COLOR]

[COLOR=#cc6666] and ofcourse the whole that,

i said what i said also because this " [/COLOR][COLOR=#cccccc]Marriage is a more ideal circumstance for living together in my humble opinion[/COLOR][COLOR=#cc6666] "

should not be any difference i feel, just real love which i think is very uncommon in the real far far way,

but it is also important try to not judge anything or anyone, i understand what you meaned but i think there is no more ideal or not ideal if you are married o whatever story

ideal is to be real people, real always, and in whtaver situation that appears on the road , accept and let go, as fast as possible always

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Sure my man, the far love fairytale is beautiful and I actually agree with that being very important, but if you add a baby and mortgage and so on to the mix, that commitment made before God and both families starts to be more vital. And since a life partner was partially about having kids for us, marriage was the natural next step.

I tell people all the time, relationships or living together or even marriage isn't actually that difficult or anything. But add kids to the mix, and it gets tricky and far from simple or easy. That marriage part can keep a family unit in tact when the shit hits the fan, and it will. That is, if you are both committed to the work.

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i understood nothing!

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[QUOTE=Hoff;1154259][COLOR=#cc6666] ideal is to be real people, real always, and in whatever situation that appears on the road accept and let go, as fast as possible always [/COLOR][/QUOTE]

^^THIS!!

Some think of marriage as a term indicating ownership or as a conventional institution, and they're not into any of that as "ideal," understandably. Love is love; there are many forms of it.

But like I'm always telling my kids as they're dating and I hear so much "I don't have him/her anymore; I really want him/her" and it's like "Yea, but you can't 'have' anyone as in 'own' anyone, so let that idea go." Everyone, married or not, is free to leave anytime, commitment or not, in all relationships we're free human beings (unless in actual bondage, of course). The only person we really have is ourselves.......... to give to whom we'd like, still free to leave anytime. Make peace with that first, you only have yourself to own.

People can be in a marriage (with or without kids) and really be, for the most part, already "gone" because not much love is shown.

At times I've felt my hubs is 'gone' and we have conversations like "if you're gone, make it real and just go, so I can go love somewhere else." Commitment + love make him stay I guess... not necessarily "marriage." We're at the point having been married for so long, if the marriage ends, it was still a great success story. :) but anyway, it won't because there is love, for now. For "now" is really the important focus.

Love is a choice at times; love is a commitment other times; love is a feeling occasionally; love endures difficult times, but it's always a choice. Marriage, or any relationship where you're not actually free to leave, is without love, and is bondage/suffering. And isn't making someone want to stay the fun part?!!! lol Make it fun!

On that note, Happy Valentine's Day weekend! :lol:

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[QUOTE=floridaorange;1154260]Sure my man, the far love fairytale is beautiful and I actually agree with that being very important, but if you add a baby and mortgage and so on to the mix, that commitment made before God and both families starts to be more vital. And since a life partner was partially about having kids for us, marriage was the natural next step.

I tell people all the time, relationships or living together or even marriage isn't actually that difficult or anything. But add kids to the mix, and it gets tricky and far from simple or easy. That marriage part can keep a family unit in tact when the shit hits the fan, and it will. That is, if you are both committed to the work.[/QUOTE][/COLOR]

[COLOR=#cc6666] but "marriage" has nothing to do with giving love to a child, real love is to give a real bond between parents, everything else is just a fact that has nothing to do with real Love, it's just anecdotal data

i don´t know if bond is the correct translation

also, traditional education has nothing to do with giving real Love to a child, absolutely nothing, it's just an education to control - cutting creativity and generate another asleep product of the system

based on a scoring system totally perverse for a child, all that garbage education system has expired . .. but people still sucking because most people are totally disconnected from their inner wisdom

Fortunately there are other ways, and many parents awakening from unconsciousness

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Hubby took me to this yummy place yesterday, Japanese, called "Shabu Shabu" which means swish swish. It was so fresh and delicious & fun as well. (If there's one in your city, I recommend it.)

Then we had chocolate-covered strawberries. He got me a blue orchid on a heart-shaped trellis with a red bow. And we watched the sunset at a very quiet, secluded park beside an extremely still lake, so gorgeous!

did you have a nice one?

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[QUOTE=Hoff;1154354][COLOR=#cc6666].... it's just an education to control - cutting creativity and generate another asleep product of the system

based on a scoring system totally perverse for a child, all that garbage education system has expired . .. but people still sucking because most people are totally disconnected from their inner wisdom[/COLOR] [/QUOTE]

Do you homeschool Hoff?

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As always Gus writes the deepest words.

I accepted long ago that you can only live free inside your head.

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those who used to post here often are busy on a different msg board

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Seeing (Heinoken) stars :lol:

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sleet & snow the rest of the week, schools closed today & tomorrow (so far), please send food... can't be expected to feed all these people...:shock:

really glad beach trip is booked :lol:

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[URL="http://reset.me/story/tried-psychedelic-mushrooms-35-years-saw-light/"] a pretty good read[/URL]

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^That's tempting.

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[QUOTE=floridaorange;1155251][URL="http://reset.me/story/tried-psychedelic-mushrooms-35-years-saw-light/"] a pretty good read[/URL][/QUOTE]

beautifuly written

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way to be subtle sbando :lol:

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[URL="http://reset.me/story/reigniting-awe-everyday-life-psilocybin-mushrooms/"]another to peak interest[/URL]

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interesting articles

glad I don't require any plant to 'get there'

resonated:

[FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]“I saw that in normal life we lived as if moments were beads rolling by on a string, but that in fact, the awful sense of time fleeing was an illusion. Each moment had its own unfolding expanse. It was [I][I]obvious[/I][/I], I could see it: a timeless space extending in all directions in a way I knew even then I would never be able to put into words.[/SIZE][/FONT][FONT=Corbel][COLOR=navy][COLOR=navy][FONT=Corbel][/FONT][/COLOR][/COLOR][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3] [/SIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]I could only 'remember' a two dimensional version of what had been a four-dimensional experience — which is what I have recounted here.[/SIZE][/FONT]

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[FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3]I knew I would never forget what I had experienced, and that it would always be a source of inspiration I could draw on, reminding me that the world was filled with inexpressible beauty and goodness.”[/SIZE][/FONT]

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My mental health has got worse and worse. I've lost intellectual faculties and mobility. Social services are helping me, they clean the house and cook some food if needed. Now more family tragedies expect me and my brother. I don't have any money, I'm on the brink of poverty. Right now I feel that only taking my own life can be a valid solution.

[I]"The game of life is hard to play, I'm gonna lose it anyway"[/I]

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^^ maybe you're having a medication issue? You need to reach out to those who can actually help you, call a hotline, talk to someone who can do something for you? you know? idk, man... you're in a really tough situation, but things can get better. I'm positive something can occur to make things better for you, or at least make you feel better.

If I were you, I'd worry that my creator would send me back here in an even worse predicament so I'd finally learn what I came here to learn (whatever that is). Or, I'd worry there's a worse place for my spirit than where I was now. (though it might seem like it can't get any worse. Maybe it really could?)

Have you ever considered the possibility that your spirit has complete responsibility for every circumstance you face and your perception is off? If so, until you free yourself within these horrendous confines, you're putting yourself in perpetual bondage? You seem pretty intelligent to me. I'm really sorry you're feeling so hopeless. But know, this is all really an illusion. This life is just a mist... interpreted by our senses. There is much to it than we realize or can fathom.

Anyway, I wish I could help; unfortunately I've been up to my eyeballs in 'suicide watch' with my teenager (the result of a medication issue). We're all sometimes just hanging by a thread. But, let's stay together, at least... ride it out... when it's time, it's time... it's not up to us. The illusion it'd be easier, might just be a lie. No one can say.

Glad to see your light is on right now.

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I can't do anything, lack of self-esteem made things worse. I just want this horror to end but I don't expect positive solutions.