Sorry guys I typed all that shit at 4am and in hindsight it is probably not the best thing for GYY right now.

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just my two cents.... i know you're hung up on your ex. but if you got a cool girl that wants to be with you, maybe you should focus on her. hell, sorry to hear about all the drama. but maybe the best thing for you is right in front of you. hope it sorts itself out man.

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[QUOTE=Garrick;781041]just my two cents.... i know you're hung up on your ex. but if you got a cool girl that wants to be with you, maybe you should focus on her. hell, sorry to hear about all the drama. but maybe the best thing for you is right in front of you. hope it sorts itself out man.[/QUOTE]

Not to sound like a dick, BUT I think Garrick is right. Either way soooo sorry to hear about all this.

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First your life is not over, in other words your life is just beginning! You were not born into this world with a mission to be the one who has to take care of your friend who is unfortunately ill. Your only mission is to take care of you (or your kids when you have them), well I know it may sound selfish but the events in your life are showing you the way out of this situation which is not your fault or your duty in any way!! Doing “the right thing” may sound noble but in reality has nothing to do with your purpose in life which is to make yourself as big a person as you can be and clearly this relationship does not make you happy. This mess you found yourself in may just as well be a blessing in disguise so you can move forward in life. What can you give others if you’re a mess? Make yourself happy first and others will follow! You can still be her friend and help her thru tough times anyways.

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Wow, sorry to hear this. It sounds like it doesn´t matter what you do for her, it will always be wrong in her eyes, and that feels fucked up. Don´t blame yourself for it, and don´t blame her. She had a hard time and you need to support her. You can tell her that you want to move on, but first she needs to be mentally stable. Take the time, take a lot of rest and keep us posting.

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Wow feather I am so very sorry you are going through this. Its definitely a very difficult situation for anyone and only you will be able to make the best decision for yourself and your well-being.

First of all, it is very admirable of you to have stood by her all this time and I am sure in some way, you will always be there for her....however this seems like a very toxic situation and I think you need to take a step back from it. You need to focus on you and making yourself strong and happy.

If you need anything at all, please feel free to get in touch....hang in there hug

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Your ex-girlfriend destroyed your stuff? WTF? When did she tell you she had cancer, before or after she came over, need more info on this one, sounds super complex.

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chip up and stay up brother, you can conquer this.

just forget about that fuckd up shit and let the music heal those wounds.

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Mate really don't know whats up or what your current situation is but keep your self strong...find a way to vent off all the bad shit and re-evaluate your position. The best advice I ever received was from my brother when he said that no matter how bleak our outlook in life , no matter how much life and our current shit gets us down...if we put our selves to work and focus we can make our life at least a little better. I remember that in my worst moments and it always helps. Just hold on.

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keep your head up, buddy. i've been in a serious funk since about june 08 and am only now getting out of it. things get better

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Hey feather sorry to hear of your situation. Chin up mate it gets better

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Hey bro = all of MS know what ive gone through this year, and i can only imagine how you are feeling... it takes time for you to feel better mate, but you will feel better.... even if its only a lil bit at first.

at the end of the day my feathered friend, im here if you need me (ill pm you my email address) - and im coming over in nov so we'll have to get hammered at sasha!!!

chin up my son. sometimes life is a poo sandwich and all you can do is get used to the taste :(

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i missed something!

keep your chin feather!

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Thanks everyone, and again, I am sorry. Unfortunately there is no delete function for the thread.

I went into a lot of details in the original post which is probably not necessary nor good for the place.

Suffice to say, I had been up the whole night trying to keep my ex from destroying the apartment after knifing, burning my bed and other shit and struggling with a fucking knife. I resorted to extreme measures to prove how I feel about her, which was clearly a stupid thing to do but given the moment, when my words mean nothing, I had no idea what else to do except to resort to action.

The worst is over for now, this won't reflect well on me for not turning up at work, and because of work and this, it just feels like everything is converging and imploding together.

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hope you sort things out mate

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I hope things work out for you feather.

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Well first off i wouldn't feel bad about expressing yourself on MS, i think out of all the hangouts i know of on the net you can get some real honest advice here. The issues you have with this girl might be hard to talk to with your friends, i know the feeling.

Maybe you want this thread to be killed or you are still looking for some opinions. If you are, now that you are a little calmer, i think writing down exactly what the issues are without the emotion might do some good.

If not well i hope things work out for you but it does sound like a passionate Volatile relationship to me.. Was in one before and they are dangerous on [U]your[/U] mental health, as much as you want to do the right thing you have to look after number 1.

Good luck.

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[quote=pipey;781195]

chin up my son. sometimes life is a poo sandwich and all you can do is get used to the taste :([/quote]

^ wise words

best wishes mate, hope you get sorted but keep ya pecker up in the meantime best you can yeah? ;)

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WTF story did I miss?? All I got since it is edited now is Girlfriend, Cancer, knife and bed being burnt. :?::!:

Feather from what I know about this (which is very little) I would do what I think Dancing said "Take a step back" and try to establish calm for starters.. Emotions are obviously running rampant. Good luck.

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I didn't catch the post explaining what happened, but I get the gist. Keep your head up. I went through a particularly hard situation a couple weeks ago and had the same sorts of feelings. I'm not sure what's going on but I've had some really bad luck starting about mid-July. People around me are experiencing bad luck too. Things are finally turning around for me and I hope the same will happen for you, if it hasn't already.

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[quote=Mr.Big;781250]Well first off i wouldn't feel bad about expressing yourself on MS, i think out of all the hangouts i know of on the net you can get some real honest advice here. The issues you have with this girl might be hard to talk to with your friends, i know the feeling.

Maybe you want this thread to be killed or you are still looking for some opinions. If you are, now that you are a little calmer, i think writing down exactly what the issues are without the emotion might do some good.

If not well i hope things work out for you but it does sound like a passionate Volatile relationship to me.. Was in one before and they are dangerous on [U]your[/U] mental health, as much as you want to do the right thing you have to look after number 1.

Good luck.[/quote]

Agree with Mr. Big, MS keeps me sane and GYY is the place to get things out of your head or go over to the promos sections and get a new set, anything to keep the day on track, the people you truly care about can sometimes put the screws to ya, but that was some heavy stuff to have dropped on you, plus all the other drama, it is fried when you have to alert the authorities to a dangerously armed girlfriend going nuts in your house, anyway without delving into personal experience, we are a community and here for ya.

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hung on buddy.

maybe this is just the beginning... try to see the glass half full.

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[quote=neoee;781378]I didn't catch the post explaining what happened, but I get the gist. Keep your head up. I went through a particularly hard situation a couple weeks ago and had the same sorts of feelings. I'm not sure what's going on but I've had some really bad luck starting about mid-July. People around me are experiencing bad luck too. Things are finally turning around for me and I hope the same will happen for you, if it hasn't already.[/quote]

man, i have had bad luck since april.. its been fucking terrible. and so have the other people i work with, since a psycho witch that used to work here "cursed" us all. i dont give much belief to that kinda shit, but its been a freaky set of circumstances

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Thanks everyone, seriously. Just feeling a bit fragile right now sitting here at work.

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I believe we see our true character when faced with adversity and tough life decisions. Sounds like you've put your life on hold for a long time Feather. maybe time to take care of yourself instead of others. Just take it a DAY AT A TIME bro.

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stay strong buddy.. You know the sweet and sour story...

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Not too big on advice but as usual there is some good stuff here. :) Good community :)

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^ what kinda of bird are you???

you should always have something to say

are you sure your not a bloke????? :shock:

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On MSN with her now and I really don't know what to do. She wants to hurt me and feel everything like she is now, and wants us to be 'equal'.

It's 12:20am I have an interview in 7 hours and another interview at 6pm.

All I have been doing is begging her for a chance, not tonight or tomorrow or this week but at some point in the future with some time behind us, to give me a chance to fix things. I have even offered to quit my job today if she wanted a commitment from me to fix things, I would quit my job and plan to move back to where she is or wherever she wants to go.

Fuck man. It has come to a point where, I just don't know, I mean, fuck, I don't know. Argh.

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let it go for now!

if she's out to hurt you its best to distance yourself.

no point ruining your interviews. these are oppourtunities for your future! take a break distance yourself from things and prepare for the interviews.

remember your are strong and you have something to offer them. your strenght in this situation shows your worth!

keep your chin up! if u need to talk you know where we are!

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Dont worry yourself Feather. take care of number 1 and that is u :)

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Feather it's your responsibility to take control of this, not hers. Do what you have to do.

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Hey Feather .... pics or STFU !

But in all seriousness, hope some sort of resolution can be reached. Keep your chin up mate.

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[quote=feather;781629]On MSN with her now and I really don't know what to do. She wants to hurt me and feel everything like she is now, and wants us to be 'equal'.[/quote]

She seriously said this?! Hun you do [U][B]not[/B][/U] need to be with someone who wants to hurt you. That is the last type of relationship anyone needs....believe me I know....I've been there. You get stuck thinking you don't deserve any better and this is what love is, but believe me its not....it is definitely a very toxic, unhealthy situation you are in or heading into if you chose to be with her.

I agree with Dhar_2 you need to seriously distance yourself from her and focus on you and your career. Please take a step back from this situation and take the time to regroup hug

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^^ nice one dancing.. that is some good advice right there.

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[quote=feather;781629]... to give me a chance to fix things. I have even offered to quit my job today if she wanted a commitment from me to fix things, I would quit my job and plan to move back to where she is or wherever she wants to go.... [/quote]

[FONT=Helvetica][COLOR=silver]Don't know you Feather, therefore I will not give advice. All I will do is share with you what I went through… A situation where my ex asked me to stop my work and fix our relationship. It was 6+ years ago. I was working 70 hrs per week and she felt it was hurting us while she had no job, and couldn’t find one that would make her the money she needed or better yet the money I was giving her. Looking at the situation, it took my friends to show me that it was her that was hurting our relationship. She would try and crush everything that I did because she was selfish... I couldn't see it. I was in “love” My friends (I ask you to trust your friends) forced me to see the "light". I finally trusted them enough to look within and see for myself how bad it (SHE) was… Now years later, my life, my career and my new love (5 yrs together) could not be any better. It takes a lot of inward focus and attention, more importantly it takes good people around you (family, friends, co-workers, [MS] ) to trust and be there for you for support. Listen to the good people and trust what they see, not just what you feel… Good luck my man and stay strong! [/COLOR][/FONT]

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^good anecdotal there

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^^^ That's probably a mental thing. Every time you get enthusiastic they find something wrong. Incredibly destuctive.

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^^ lots of great advice and contrasting views

... sometimes you simply can't control who you love (or who loves you) - that's the conundrum and I'm sure there's more highs/lows than you could ever think possible.

It may be that the girl that is best for you can also be the worst for you.

If it ends badly, at least cherish the good times and memories. It's all to easily too think of the end-game because that's the most recent thing, rather than the magical chemisty and love you enjoyed in the 1st place.

So in relationship terms, it it was Oakey, think 1999 not 2009 !!

If it ends (and it looks like it has) .. it ends - hopefully, in time, the lines of communication and genuine best wishes stay there.

At least we're all rooting for you here on [ms].