most you that you know have heard the kind of year that i have had. starting in January i was dumped on my birthday prior to her moving in and us getting formally engaged. then on valentine's day i was abruptly laid off from my job which was how i managed to pay for my then only two month old mortgage. a bit later in the year i posted on here that i was back and had finally recovered from the hell of a first half of the year that i had gone through. after a very smooth and fun summer things had started to turn around for yours truly. myself and the old miss have even started to rekindle our past love and have begun to put things together again ever so slowly.

then two weeks ago my best friend's girl also someone who i have known since kindergarten on plains of south dakota who i have been through a ton of shit with was badly injured in a terrible car accident. her injuries are far too numerous to list here for the sake of decency. to be blunt she has been in a coma since that day three weeks ago. myself and a few close friends and family have been spending literally all of our time at the hospital talking to her and hoping, praying, and hoping some more. i myself have dealt with sudden deaths and slow deaths before, but never a brain damaging coma. i can't describe how hard this has been. i have steeled myself to stay positive and pray, pray, and pray.

turns out some dumbfuck ran a red and may have very well ended the life of someone who never hurt a fly in her young life. where is the justice? why does this shit happen to good people? why why why?

she may recover fully. she may become a vegetable for life. not even the docs know a damn thing. i can't tell you all how frustrating it is day in and day out to go and sit through this and not be able to do a god damn thing but hope and support others who are trying to deal as am i.

i have never been a negative guy, but given the breakup, lay off, coma bullshit and ms+ dying I can't find that silver lining that i wish so much to see. so again i am throwing this out there because i know there are some great folks on this board who truly give a fuck. please any words at all would help a lost soul at this point.

her name is Jade and please put her your prayers!

love and respect,

weizy

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:( :( Jade and her family and friends are in my prayers. Hopefully she will fully recover

hugs

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thoughts to her and her family, and you!

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I sometimes take a break from fantasy and get back into reality - sorry about you pain and i wish you better luck soon. My sentiments exactly Same as DancingQueen and Peloquin.

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Goddamnit Weizy, is it ever going to stop??? My thoughts are with you and her, I so hope she makes a full recovery or at least one that'll enable her to pick up her life as much as possible. This is no justice, and I always wonder what it is that makes you take a decision which has such a high risk of ending up in the possible destruction of a life...but the answer is probably total disrespect for another one's wellbeing huh?

Stay stong bro,

Yao

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That sucks dude, hope she recovers from that bullshit.

Everything will turn out alright in the end.

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Weizy, your post hit a chord deep inside of me...

11 years ago I graduated from high school. After the celebration night my best buddy - sober like a muslim during ramadan - drove home on his motorbike. On an intersection a few hundred meters from his house some drunk fucker runs him over with his SUV. He wasn't injured that badly, but his helmet got caught on the bullbar of the SUV while his body was clasped under the car. Because the driver was to drunk to notice where my friend was, the strap of his helmet suffocated him. Remco was already dead when the police arrived on the scene and found him...

At times like these there are only questions without answers, frustration and impotence which runs so deep it even overwhelms the grief and pain.

I'm not gonna try to make you feel better by rounding up some motivational quotes or whatever. It won't help anyway. However, keep in mind that (sorry for putting it so bluntly) shit always happens for a reason. Jade didn't deserve this happening to her and there is no reason behind fate playing a foul trick on her, that's true. But her suffering - whatever the outcome may be - isn't entirely pointless if it makes you realize that every morning you wake up in good health is a priceless gift, no matter what setbacks you may encounter.

Even though I don't know you very well, my thoughts are with you, with Jade and with her friends and loved ones. Be strong for yourself and above all for the others. I think that's what she expects from you now.

As for the amount of blows you've taken this year, just think of it this way: the deeper the carvings of pain and sorrow are in your soul, the more joy your soul will be able to retain in them.

We're there for you buddy...

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Been a while scince I have seen you post. But then again I was without internet for several months. I do remember the breakup dilema though.

Knowing that in the grand scheme of things we are all in the same boat of life, I will keep her and those aroundr her in my thoughts.

When life keeps kicking your teeth out, just remember that there is always dentures. :what

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thanks everyone for all of the kind words. seriously it means alot to me. some of you know me and some of you don't, but that really doesn't matter. sometimes i come here for a different kind of support than my immediate friends and family can give me. its just been such a fucked up year that things like being on ms kind of fall by the wayside. i just hope all ya'll know that i appreciate any kind words that are mustered in a topic like this.

since this a touchy ass subject i have alot of respect for anyone who has the guff to reply in this topic in an honest way.

my personal christian faith allows me to believe that this girl is going to make a full recovery. i can't count how many times i have said the lord's prayer in the past few weeks. its funny how cowardly dj has come back and brought up all of these theological questions lately on this board. it just makes you think about life and all of its many mysteries.

on another note if anyone wants to donate to Jade's family for what will be a lengthy and expensive rehab process please visit this site which has been set up by Jade's best friend Elizabeth:

[url]http://www.caringbridge.org/cb/inputSiteName.do?method=search&siteName=jadebenson[/url]

this site has been a blessing in its own because it has allowed those who care from all over the planet to stay in tune with what the news is. i can't tell you how difficult it is to take 50 calls a day and have to explain the same news over and over and over all the while trying not to come to pieces.

again the kind words from everyone are very much appreciated. my presence on ms will probably be pretty sporatic for awhile but i will continue to keep this thread going maybe cuz it helps me to be able to vent all these fucking emotions that now pervade every minute of every day.

today my best friend and Jade's boyfriend are having an all day drinkfest. not healthy but fuck it. we sit around and remember the best not the worst.

once again love and respect, yours truly

John W.

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almost 2500 people have visited the caring bridge site!!!

that is love man serious love...

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at least i still have this to keep my going:

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Hang in there Weizy, we love you buddy. Your friend will be in my thoughts.

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i cant say anything these other folks haven't said already. thoughts are with your friend jade, as she certainly doesn't deserve what she's going through. if you believe in karma, as i do, that drunk fucko will get whats coming one way or another. everything always works out. and while i wish your friend a full recovery just keep in mind one thing, you are pretty much at the bottom of the hole bro. there is no place else to go but UP! after the year you've had you should treat yourself to a mini vacation or something nice. again i hope your friend makes it, i hate to hear about such horrible accidents, and even after seeing a terrible car crash recently, i can't get over things like that so easy. tough shell, soft core ya know.

all my best to you, jade and her family.

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there have been several miracles wich medicine cant explain, i hope your friend will get better, i know, this is the most difficult part, when the doctors cant do nothing and there's only hope, but there were cases when people in brain coma's woke up i believe that things will come to normal in the end my thoughs are to you and your friend, you'll get through this

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Hey Weizy just read this post sorry bout the delayed reply. Anyway want to wish u all the best mate. I did pray for Jade soon after i read your post. My thoughts and pray's do go out for Jade and everyone involved with her. Times will change for ya mate for some reason i have this feeling. Hang in there bro cause there is good fortune around the corner for u and Jade.

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hope things get better, but as sick and as bad as it sounds it is a part of life. A part that sucks. I think we all have been through our bad luck streaks at times, and time will get you out of it.

As for the part I mentioned about all of it being a part of life, it is very true but very hard to accept. I couldn't imagine how I would be if some drunk driver took a loved one away from me.

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I don't know you, but sorry to hear about your friend and what you've been dealing with the past year. I've heard of accidents like these and it's tough to understand do they make any sense at all.

I was in a minor car accident recently myself with my mother in the car and luckily we weren't hurt, but more importantly made me think what if we had been hurt. Basically, we were hit behind by someone not paying attention. I thought after the accident that stupid, careless people can cause trouble to those people enjoying or living their life. And I'm not just speaking of car accidents, but all aspects of life where people cause others pain and suffering from their ignorance and stupidity. It seems very confusing and unfair to those people living and enjoying life.

You sound like a Christian, so I would tell you as one Christian to another to open the Bible up and ask Him in your prayers to help you and your loved ones to get through this difficult time. Here's a few passages to read Psalm 34:17-19; Romans 8:28; Isaiah 41:10. God Bless!

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Jade wil definitely be in my prayers, God will take care of her. I will also keep you in my prayers. These events happen to test us I think, and as said before me , the way we deal with them defines who we are. Life is definitely not meant to go it alone, so seeking support through others wether you've met them or not is crucial imo. don't give up hope for your friend ,keep letting her know that you all are there for her. things will work out man. peace brother

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I hope Jade will recover dear Weizey, and I am really really soryy of what is happening to you this year , but when you are really down don't forget that there are people 1000 times more in need on this planet than you , and that there are people also to whom life just stoppe while they are still alive , your faith no matter what religion you belong to is the thing that will help you pass this bad period , so be strong and dont forget that life is hard my friend . I hope that Jade will come out of her coma in full control of her body .

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Many thought of kindness out to Jade and those who love her. So sorry to hear of this and all you have been going through. Stay connected.

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Weizy, sorry for your misfortunes. I'm sure your friend will be fine and I hope for her to have a speedy recovery.

I don't want to go off on a tangent but I gotta mention it. If you are feeling like your having bad luck, only more of it will come to you. Change your mindset, take the time to daydream about what you want to happen etc. and IT WILL. I know it sounds retarded, like some hippy ass bullshit and it did to me too until I tried it. Give it a shot and you'll see the signs. Don't want to take away from your thread so I can explain some other time, in another thread but you gotta stop thinking about how bad of luck you've HAD.

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...but about the good luck you [I]will have[/I]? ;)