Hey all i am in a crisis at he moment. i will try keeping this short and sweet. here goes.. Ok u c i am really into this girl i work with. wehave been working for bout 4 years together and my feelings for her started bout a year into our friendship. we are very much alike and i always will always care for her. We have had our share of fights and arguments at work etcbut the reasons are something i can't really explain right now cause its gonna take so long. i have wanted to be with her for awhile and a couple years ago (can't remember exactly when) she was with a friend of mine and i witness this and i was shattered :( and yes i did get jealous. ever since i have awlays wanted to tell her my feelings for her but i can't cause of 2 major reasons. Firstly she is Married and secondly we work together. Her husband is an ok guy. i just wish sometimes that she was not his but mine. At the sart of this year she told me she is having a BABY. so that means she is gonna be finishing work in the next few months. Should i tell her now or on her last shift ??our friendship was really good until that kissing incident cause it's been on my mind for a good part of 3 years. I have always taken the blame for everything that would go wrong in our arguments etc and would always give her what she needs. i just feel that these days she might think that i will always be there for her so it's ok to fuck around at work etc. i really do care for her and when i do tell her if iever do i want to make sure i am telling her not to cause trouble with her relationship. i could go on but do u guys think i should say something or not.:(

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You should have started this off with 'Dear Digweed'... lol

If you tell her at least you will know once and for all, and if ur going to do it on her last day I reckon. Could get very awkward at work otherwise.

As for whether to tell her or not, only u can make that call. If she blows you out then I cant see you carrying on being friends once the baby comes along, but if u dont then u will always be wondering..

Good luck mate..

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married - that's a big No!

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don't tell her anything. she's married and has a child. don't make shit difficult between you two, because she has started her life and is love with someone else... it's just not going to happen bro. find someone else. it'll be easier to forget about her once she quits.

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so you're in love with a married woman who's expecting a child AND is with your friend (unless he's not the husband) ..... if all of that is true... 2 words mate.... REALITY CHECK

What a woman to fall in love with and shatter your heart ....

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I agree with pickle. Just let it go.

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dont tell her... she is married and having a kid... its better to just let this one go imo. plenty of fish in the sea and all that jazz ;)

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^^^ Agreed! You have no business in messing with an expecting mother and let alone a married one! That has drama writen all over it!

You have no idea what you would be stepping into!

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ur just going to have to leave it man.. Maybe if its too much consider moving jobs and getting her out of ur life.

theres plenty more fish in the sea regardless of how u two get on.

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put a dent in her baby's head ;)

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^that what happened to you tiddles? ;)

explains quite a bit actually...

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could be...

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OK, growing up with a mother who's a therapist listen up:
Bro, you're bordering on obsessive compulsive here... Actually I think you crossed that border awhile ago but you need to let this go. Go back and read what you posted here... [U]I[/U] have feelings, [U]I[/U] want to be with her, [U]I[/U] was shattered, [U]I[/U] got jealous.... Honestly, I'm not trying to be harsh with you but it has to be said. She's not your wife and she's not having your baby. There are plenty of other attractive, single female's who you'll have plenty in common with out there.... Let this one go mate.

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[quote=batica]married - that's a big No![/quote]

^^^ gotta agree with one. even if her marrage was falling apart. only could lead to trouble. ;)

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yep, you're too late i'm afraid. You should of said something years ago when she was single. You didn't do that, ok that's history now. Move on she's not for you. It is actually a good thing she's going away it will make things easier in the long run

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go out and get a penial enlargement surgury to about 13 inches and 4 inch circumference. then show it to her. she'll come around.

kidding.

if you like her enough, you will let her live her life as she chooses. kids are not one to screw up

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[quote=geoffgulley] There are plenty of other attractive, single female's who you'll have plenty in common with out there.... Let this one go mate.[/quote]

yup. save some cash, go out and buy a girl a drink, and try to be funny.

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married and a kid, gotta let that go, esp. if the husband is a buddy of yours. This has trainwreck written all over it.

Best case scenario, she leaves him for you and you spend the rest of your relationship wondering if she's going to trade up from you, too, while helping to raise some other dude's kid. Is that what you really want? Realistically, though, you're just going to create an incredible awkward situation and put her in a real trick box.

My $.02, since you asked for people's thoughts...

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yes i agree with all the above comments. if you really like this girl then you would realize that she is happy with this other guy and let her be happy. no need to create drama between 3 people.

find another girl.

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[quote=picklemonkey]don't tell her anything. she's married and has a child. don't make shit difficult between you two, because she has started her life and is love with someone else... it's just not going to happen bro. find someone else. it'll be easier to forget about her once she quits.[/quote]

I agree with pickle....she is married and has a family...you need to leave that alone...you have no right to interfere with her life.....you had your chance when she was single, but you didn't make your move.

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honestly dude... she already knows. she's not stupid. don't make it more awkward than it already is.

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[quote=picklemonkey]honestly dude... she already knows. she's not stupid. don't make it more awkward than it already is.[/quote]

:p lol, probably true

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[quote=geoffgulley]OK, growing up with a mother who's a therapist listen up:
Bro, you're bordering on obsessive compulsive here... Actually I think you crossed that border awhile ago but you need to let this go. Go back and read what you posted here... [U]I[/U] have feelings, [U]I[/U] want to be with her, [U]I[/U] was shattered, [U]I[/U] got jealous.... Honestly, I'm not trying to be harsh with you but it has to be said. She's not your wife and she's not having your baby. There are plenty of other attractive, single female's who you'll have plenty in common with out there.... Let this one go mate.[/quote] that and you've well passed into the friendship bit since the beginning...once you're there, a woman married or not, won't come out of that no matter how hard a man usually tries to change it...that and trying to change it leads to a complete fuckup and mainly, the loss of said friend.

Furthermore, you waited WAYYYYYY too long; should have tried to get her right in the beginning....and probably wasted too much time when you could have gone for many a someone else...

Get over it and move on...the fact that she's leaving for a few months might help you as well in the end...

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ey ey wait a moment, we dont know if the "married woman" wants something, you dont get that sentimental for nothing. there must be something.... theres allways something, anyway its a very hard situation, you should think twice before you do anything and you should know by this time if shes feeling something for you, the thing is that shes not single and you should try to respect that imo. btw shes having a baby in a very short time... that chages everything, i dont have kids, in fact the im too young for that i think, but one thing i know for sure is that "kids" changes every people life.

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yea i have to agree the child plays a large part. imagine being the cause of a childs parents splitting. i am sure it is hard, i am in a situation where i think i have to bite my tounge and forget as well, and it is not easy. i do this as well as you probably do this as well.... when you want something very badly you convince yourself that things will work out, but when people outside hear it they dont see it the way you do....

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[quote=picklemonkey]don't tell her anything. she's married and has a child. don't make shit difficult between you two, because she has started her life and is love with someone else... it's just not going to happen bro. find someone else. it'll be easier to forget about her once she quits.[/quote]

Excellent advice! Even if it does come from the guy who never gets any ;). But in all seriousness- time to move. Take this as a lesson, next time you need to move quicker.

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Do NOT work this pussy, cause you`ll burn your fingers!! Forget about it, life goes on and there are a lot of nice girls out there, try to check them out. Good luck pal!!

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Hey all so i get it don't do anything. u c she has been with this guy for bout 8 years. hs only been married for bout 2. she and her husband always fight. she was with my firend while she was married. i don't expect anything from her (it would be nice though to show that i am appericated by her). we have had our fair share of arguments like i have said. she does geta bit jealous when i speak to other girls and a few of them have said that. i think she has got a thing for me but i think she is waiting for me to make the first move. i honestly care bout her and if u guys and gals only knew what i have had to put up with and then say sorry when it's not even my fault everyne will be ammazed. i have told a few close friends of mine the situation andall and they think i should say something. i know moving on and all that will help me but i would do anything for this girl. All i want to do is say what i have to and get it off my chest. if it breaks up our frienship so be it cause if it does she was not a friend of mine at all (thats the way i think anyway). for someone to have these strong feelings for someone for so long and not even try do anything eg kiss her is credit to me don't u guy's think? eventhough u guys have sid not to say anything i still might cause it's tearing me apart and i am not even gonna try break up the marriage or anything like that but just speak from my heart and let her know that i will always be there for her. Thanks alot for everyones advice. :)

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wrong move but go ahead, let's us know what happened tho.

edit: maybe you shouldn't listen to me cause this post was evil ->look at my postcount 666 :twisted:

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[QUOTE=johns]Hey all so i get it don't do anything. u c she has been with this guy for bout 8 years. hs only been married for bout 2. she and her husband always fight. she was with my firend while she was married. i don't expect anything from her (it would be nice though to show that i am appericated by her). we have had our fair share of arguments like i have said. she does geta bit jealous when i speak to other girls and a few of them have said that. i think she has got a thing for me but i think she is waiting for me to make the first move. i honestly care bout her and if u guys and gals only knew what i have had to put up with and then say sorry when it's not even my fault everyne will be ammazed. i have told a few close friends of mine the situation andall and they think i should say something. i know moving on and all that will help me but i would do anything for this girl. All i want to do is say what i have to and get it off my chest. if it breaks up our frienship so be it cause if it does she was not a friend of mine at all (thats the way i think anyway). for someone to have these strong feelings for someone for so long and not even try do anything eg kiss her is credit to me don't u guy's think? eventhough u guys have sid not to say anything i still might cause it's tearing me apart and i am not even gonna try break up the marriage or anything like that but just speak from my heart and let her know that i will always be there for her. Thanks alot for everyones advice. :)[/QUOTE] dude. she already knows. don't say anything, because it'll just make things more awkward than they already are.

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Forget her... there are plenty of nice, interesting, beatifull women out there. Spare yourself the trouble and look forward.