Re: meeting the right chick
[QUOTE=feather;1132206]I find it difficult meeting any woman let alone the right chick :lol:
First impressions might be the problem: I'm 5'5" and 132 lb (at the moment) and Asian. So physically I'm completely against the norm in the Western countries I live in. Obviously I speak with a non-local/neutral accent. I also shave my head, have a labret piercing (a chin piercing) and an industrial piercing on my right ear (a steel bar). So that adds another barrier to the first impression (I think). I probably have a severe countenance: Nobody ever approaches me on the street for drugs and people have thought I was a 'gangster' :lol:
I don't know about looks but colleagues and people I meet always comment positively on my style and dressing, to the extent that some people think I'm gay because I look so 'tidy' and groomed :lol: I'm also trim and athletic for the ripe old age of 38.
But I do know I'm not much for small talk or the usual stuff that facilitate men meeting women, I don't function well in large groups; at a patty I prefer to keep to people I know. I can be very very socially awkward because my interests and conversational topics tend towards the very geek stuff.
And I've kinda given on the whole meeting women thing. It's gotten to a point where I can be completely oblivious to women's body language or any kinda flirtation/intention.
There's actually no downside to this because I've moved around so much I've gotten used to doing things like movies, dinner, theater, shopping, on my own; and if there had been someone in my life it would've been so much more difficult to relocate as I have.
One downside I do fear is I've gotten so used to doing my own things that I might become eccentric without even realizing it (the above points about my niche interests and knowledge, and being socially awkward). I actually find it tiring when friends crash with me and we have to keep doing stuff or I have to accommodate another person's wants.[/QUOTE]
I dated a girl that was 5'0 (I'm 6'2) but had the personality and confidence of a girl that was 5'9. I think it's all in how you carry yourself and believe in yourself. She wasn't someone I was even initially attracted to, actually her friend was the one I thought I was interested in, but her friend had a serious BF... (they were neighbors of mine in college) She kind of pursued me and as I got to know her I really liked her and we dated for about a year, she still remains someone who I think of often and is special to me. But I digress. As a male, height may limit you a little sure, but that doesn't mean there's not a rad woman (see what I did there), out there for ya.