Okay here goes. I was involved with a girl and basically broke up with her cause the grass was greener on the other side. And yeah I fucked it up, cause the day after I knew I fucked up and wanted to go back, but being young I didn't know how.

So after summer is over we get back together for a little and shit and bam we screw on occasion, she claims it fucked with her head. I know it did at least with mine. Spring break comes she is with someone else. Bam, I lost out cause I woulda eventually straightened out.

So she is single again and I don't know what she is feeling and don't know what she wants in life. So I popped her an I'm stating the following:

Well kiki it is almost my bedtime, and I only have one question for you: What are you thinking right now? Cause I am thinking about my away message the other day and how I know I said things that only you or I should have seen, and no it wasn't embarassing, it was just me being true to my heart. All I wanna know is if there is a chance? I don't want an answer now, and I only want an answer when you are ready, but I want it in person, I want to stare into your eyes and tell you it is true this time. I ask your friends what your thinking and they all come up with the same answer, I don't know she doesn't really share, and I know something in this comsic universe ain't right (I know all about it). So I am asking you like I used to, back in the old days, the days that mattered what are you thinking? And will you ever take me back? Cause I am done playing games with my head, your head, my emotions and your emotions. And take your time on this one, cause this is the one that counts. I don't know what your thinking about someone else, and I don't care. All I know is that a day in time with me is worth more than an eternity somewhere else, and I know that cause you don't forget. And you don't forget the good times. Like I said I wan't you to take me back, but it is all up to you. Well good night and don't let the bedbugs bite.

Do you think I will win this war? I so don't wanna lose her a second time. Help me think of ways to get her back!

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Mate, you cant blame her if she decides no,after your past behaviour - if you can convince her you've cleaned up your act you'll have a chance - good luck!

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You blew it big style mate, you had ya chance now move on.

On the other hand, maybe she will take you back. If she does, will it work? It sounds like she is away at college, and you are stuck in NY, do you think there is enough trust between you? long distance releationships are very hard, after whats happened maybe it will prove too hard.

Good letter though, I think you have a chance, but it's going to be unbelievably hard. All the best.

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Now she`s single do you think you could give me her phone number? :?

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[quote=Morgan]You blew it big style mate, you had ya chance now move on.

On the other hand, maybe she will take you back. If she does, will it work? It sounds like she is away at college, and you are stuck in NY, do you think there is enough trust between you? long distance releationships are very hard, after whats happened maybe it will prove too hard.

Good letter though, I think you have a chance, but it's going to be unbelievably hard. All the best.[/quote]

We both go to the same school. And work with eachother at work. And yeah I fucking blew it big time.

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I'll tell you one thing fo sho... even if a woman doesn't show it, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. My honest recommendation to you is try and move on. Even if you have a chance, I wouldn't recommend taking it, it WILL come back later to haunt you, be it in a fight or through her actions (which you will have NOTHING to tell her about). She could start caring lesser (or at least seem like she is) about the relation, not be on time for meetings or even delay them, could be anything dude..... but you WILL start to notice these..... and the worst part.... these are nothing in comparison to what she possibly went through so you wont stand a chance at bringing it up.... nothing beats the world down better than a healthy doze of regret.....

suck it up and move on.....

-e-

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I tell jew what jew do? cecil father tell him when only small boy. Jew get de liqour, any sort, no matter. Jew drink until you is good and well drunk. Jew ring this girl, jew say "why you leave me baby? I was dare for you." Den jew cry a bit, not too much, juz a little. Den you say "Well maybe I don't want you anymore baby, maybe you not the shit, like jew tink jew is," and den jew hang up de phone.

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[quote=Cecil]I tell jew what jew do? cecil father tell him when only small boy. Jew get de liqour, any sort, no matter. Jew drink until you is good and well drunk. Jew ring this girl, jew say "why you leave me baby? I was dare for you." Den jew cry a bit, not too much, juz a little. Den you say "Well maybe I don't want you anymore baby, maybe you not the shit, like jew tink jew is," and den jew hang up de phone.[/quote]

Problem with that is that I left her.

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Cecil don't know what to say. Jew really screwed up on dis one. Maybe keep de alchohol remove de phone call.

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Move on. Forget about the past and find some different. Like E said even if you do get back together with her this time. How long is it going to before she gets feed up you again. Yeah people change but she is always going to think about the time you fucked her over.

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[quote=rewing3]Yeah people change but she is always going to think about the time you fucked her over.[/quote]

EXACTLY, people never forget an injury, that's what they call experience

-e-

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^ Agreed.

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I can't believe someone said that email was well written-I thought it was cryptic and unfocused. Coming off of a relationship myself I can say one thing and its the best advice in the world yet its also the most impossible to actually put into effect. Don't let this bitch know you want her so bad-it only turns them off. If she thinks you don't need her or have better things to do and there is some part of her that is still interested then she will make you realize that in her own way. Other than that, bang the shit out of someone hotter than she is and that will dull the pain for a few moments before the emptiness returns...

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^^ i agree with this post. Things ended for a reason, i know its cliche, but every thing DOES happen for a reason. Though you may not realise what it is just now, it will hit you in the future, maybe when you meet your next girlfriend.

I have been in relationships in the past where we broke up, got back, broke up got back.. and it never is the same as the 1st time. Goes along with you always want what you can't have.

You can't take it back now, but an email professing your undying love rarely ever comes off on the other end like you want it to. And letting her know you are asking her friends about her probably wasn't a good idea either. This is between you two. Tell her in person how you feel if you must, but now the ball is on her court, and you maybe setting yourself up to be let down in a big way. Go about your life mate, control what you can control.. the rest will fall into place.

peace

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if you really want her back, dont play cool, make her understand that you want her, make that as clear as possible and that you are sorry for what happend in the past.that's the only way you can get her back.but its not only up to you, if u didnt mean much to her, you have good chances not to win this. good luck, its a really shity situation, i've been there and fortunately for me it worked

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my man querty was LUCKY, its all about perceived power

when you go from being a jackass and thinking she's disposable to then begging for her back she isn't going to respect you or want anything you have to offer because she is going to think that you aren't exactly on top of the world if you are spending so much time writing weepy emails

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Is this the same bird?

[quote=fumanchu182]MY FUCKING VACATION GOT RUINED. I gave my girl a call and she was in a fucking HOTEL room with a guy... He picked up and said never to call her again. I was like who am I speaking with... He said its not important. I was like she told me to call her, this is fucking for the birds peace. Before I hung up he called me a fucking asshole. Holy shit I never drove so fast down the fucking parkway in my entire life. got home in about 30 minutes from seaside nj... Douche bag wouldn't open the hotel room door and he told me to leave before he calls his friends. I was like okay call your friends you fucking pussy, I will take them all on!

Okay so this has been the summer of shit...

Through two gf, tons of car problems, vacation cut short, and I don't even get the satisfaction of beating the piss out of the asshole who called me a fucking asshole...

I can't wait till the sun comes up, I am fucking waiting in that parking lot come 9am...

It is about 3:22 am now, I am fucking so pissed, can't wait to get my anger out.[/quote]

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[quote=Encryption][quote=rewing3]Yeah people change but she is always going to think about the time you fucked her over.[/quote]

EXACTLY, people never forget an injury, that's what they call experience

-e-[/quote]

they never forget but they learn how to deal

*deep thought by DG

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[quote=fumanchu182]

We both go to the same school. And work with eachother at work. And yeah I fucking blew it big time.[/quote]

:? this could be a plus...then there is this approach, leave her the fuck alone ..specially if you see her all the time.. let her c u being u.... have fun with her in group situations, but dont bug her...she'll come around because she will miss the fun u !! .... if you keep bugging her she'll avoid you everytime u see her.... you've made it known that you want her back, now back of and let her be... wow this brings back horrible memories, i had something like this happen and i bugged the shit out of the girl...she took me back out of pitty and it only lasted a couple more weeks....be carefull

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[quote=alexfish333] Don't let this bitch know you want her so bad-it only turns them off. If she thinks you don't need her or have better things to do and there is some part of her that is still interested then she will make you realize that in her own way.[/quote]

in my experience you have to play a littly bit of hard to get in these situations. if you let on that you are dying to get back together she will be turned off very quickly. whenever my ex-girlfriend of four years would break up with me she would not want anything to do with me til I was dating a new girl and all of the sudden my ex is calling ME trying to get back together :?

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I can tell you from a few personal experiences that you shouldn't sweat this so hard. It's a turn-off to girls to see men act like this. Don't elaborate on your feelings so much, she knows you want her back and that's enough. Playing it cool is your best option.

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[quote=skahound]Is this the same bird?

[quote=fumanchu182]MY FUCKING VACATION GOT RUINED. I gave my girl a call and she was in a fucking HOTEL room with a guy... He picked up and said never to call her again. I was like who am I speaking with... He said its not important. I was like she told me to call her, this is fucking for the birds peace. Before I hung up he called me a fucking asshole. Holy shit I never drove so fast down the fucking parkway in my entire life. got home in about 30 minutes from seaside nj... Douche bag wouldn't open the hotel room door and he told me to leave before he calls his friends. I was like okay call your friends you fucking pussy, I will take them all on!

Okay so this has been the summer of shit...

Through two gf, tons of car problems, vacation cut short, and I don't even get the satisfaction of beating the piss out of the asshole who called me a fucking asshole...

I can't wait till the sun comes up, I am fucking waiting in that parking lot come 9am...

It is about 3:22 am now, I am fucking so pissed, can't wait to get my anger out.[/quote][/quote]

holy shit i didn't read this post :shock: .. my advice changes now..fuck the bitch..find someone else and act (be)happy around her!!

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If that was you that waited outside the hotel then screw it and move on to your next relationship and just end it. The best revenge is to move on and appear happy without her.

If she really wants to make it work and you do too, then just don't get back together because you're lonely. You'll break up again for similar reasons. Talk about what the problems are in person(not via email) and see if they can be fixed.

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[quote=remoh] this could be a plus...then there is this approach, leave her the fuck alone ..specially if you see her all the time.. let her c u being u.... have fun with her in group situations, but dont bug herl[/quote]

Thats the best piece of advice you could probably follow. Take it from an old timer who`s seen both sides of the grass many times.

P.S I wonder if he`s still in the car park? :?

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the girl in the hotel room was the girl i left the one i want for...

the grass is greener on the other side but it always ain't cut to the right size for your yard...

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the grass is not greener on the other side , it only seems greener

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The Streets says:

Dry your eyes mate I know it?s hard to take but her mind has been made up There?s plenty more fish in the sea Dry your eyes mate I know you want to make her see how much this pain hurts But you?ve got to walk away now It?s over

I say: Life is long and the world is HUGE! So if this one gets away, don't worry about it. If a relationship was meant to be, everything would fall into play easily. If she's not taking you back and you still want to make things right, do this: Choose the right words, send her flowers w/ card attached, and play defense. Do not try to contact her again beyond that! She has your number/e-mail and if she's interested, she'll let you know. Dig it, even is she turns you down, at least you ended on a high note. If her friends ask, "what about Jersey?"..."Oh, he sent me flowers," she'll say.

GOOD LUCK ACE

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tell her how you feel............and don't i repeat DO NOT CALL HER. trust me thats the worst the you can do.....is call and call after a week she'll be like what the fuck

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[quote=Musical Journey][quote=remoh] this could be a plus...then there is this approach, leave her the fuck alone ..specially if you see her all the time.. let her c u being u.... have fun with her in group situations, but dont bug herl[/quote]

Thats the best piece of advice you could probably follow. Take it from an old timer who`s seen both sides of the grass many times. [/quote]

i second that advice, only way to get them back imo.

[size=1]learned that the hard way[/size]

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yep, play it cool man, she sees you all the time so will be reminded of you constantly. if you keep at her she defo wont take ya back

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Well to end the thread I lost the battle but will not give up on the war.

Who knows what will happen over the summer and to be honest, I miss DJ ing and having a GF is time consuming. I will miss her and we both agreed that the time we spent together was wonderful. Just that she wants to do something else, so I will let her go for now. I told her be proud, she was the only mountain I couldn't climb.

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[quote=fumanchu182]I told her be proud, she was the only mountain I couldn't climb.[/quote]

so u never made it past humping her leg ?? :lol:

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chick are wierd bro shes probably thinking .. he called me a mountain, am i fat???

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aw damn, i had some good advice for ya....anywho...go on a fuckfest.....women only haha

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[quote=fumanchu182]Well to end the thread I lost the battle but will not give up on the war. [/quote]

I hope this doesen't mean your still going to try later. One thing I've learned is that the memory is always better than the moment; you left her for a reason, your only going back because for some reason we only seem to remember the good times, the bad seem forgotten.

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just go to the store and but another pair.

try the pioneer HDJ 1000s this time. they will satisfy your every need.

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:Respect:

I think wrong thread but thank you for the recommendation... :)

Hos you silly goose you.